While speaking in a new exclusive interview with Linda Ikeji TV,
controversial Lagos OAP, Daddy Freeze’s fiancee, Benedicta Elechi,
opened up on what she went through in her marriage to her estranged
husband, Paul Odekina, the executive general manager of Human Resource
at Total E&P Nigeria Limited.
Benedicta who is the C.E.O of TasteBudz Real Naija Cooking and
Dictachi Foods Nigeria Ltd, also opened up about her food business, her
failed marriage which produced three children.
Speaking further, she also talked on how she filed for a divorce
from her husband because of his ‘sexual perversion’, adding that during
their union, they only made love just eleven times in 10 years, until
she caught her husband red-handed in gay s*x with a man in their living
room.
When asked why she filed a divorce from her ex-husband, Paul Odekina of Total E&P, Benedicta said: “I
filed for a divorce from him because of his sexual perversion and
there’s a point where you get to as a human being when you realise that
something or what is your aim is never going to work.
“Because when I signed a contract to marry him, I believed I
was marrying a man that shared the same type of sexuality with me. Don’t
get me wrong, I do not have any issues with people that have different
sexual orientation but when you come and say you want to get into a
marriage contract with someone, you both have to share the same sexual
orientation.
“So when you get into that marriage and find out it wasn’t what
you bargained for, it’s like you were tricked into the marriage. The
marriage is a sham.
“For example, we got married in 2002, I filed for a divorce
2012. For the period of 10-years that we were married, we actually had
sexual intercourse just 11 times in 10 years. He never let me sleep in
his room, I have to stay in my own room.
“He would only come to see me when he thinks we should make a
baby. Way into the marriage, I caught him red-handed in gay s*x. I
walked into him in our living room, at about 1:30, 1:40am with a guy I
didn’t really know. But he obviously walked in with that person at that
time of the night, and I walked into them in our living.
“I can tell you it was a struggle. You are living in a society
where as a woman you have to do everything you can to preserve your
marriage. You can come out of it, you just have to pray, God can change
things.
“There are certain things that we need to know when God is
talking to you. It’s a little bit emotional for me because there are a
lot of women out there that have gone through what I went through and
they can’t come out.
“I’m sorry, but there are a lot of reasons I never wanted to
do an interview. The pain that I went through is real and it can only
take a lifetime to forget.”
When asked if she talked to her family or anybody about it?, Benedicta said:
“When you feel that marriage is something both parties have to work on,
You don’t want to bring a third party into it, so you can give him some
time to change and pray about it.
“And this is him begging you constantly, don’t leave me. If you
do that am going to kill myself. I will commit suicide, I don’t want
you to tell my parents or your parents about it. I promise you I’m going
to change.
“You would desperately believe that this person is going to
change because you want your marriage to work, and you just find that
the years are going by, you are in it, you can’t come out.
“Who do you really want to tell? It’s a stigma and then you have kids, you don’t want them to be laughed at in school.”
When asked if she have any evidence to back up her claims that he
was in a gay relationship while they were married to him, Benedicta
said: “There were some text messages I saw on his phone which he sent to a man he actually brought home for dinner I made for them.
“When I saw the text messages on his phone, I was livid. I had
to confront him with it. You can’t bring someone to the house and tell
me he’s a guest that I should entertain him, and this is actually what
you do, this is the kind of relationship you have with this person.
“Why are you punishing me, and why are you doing this to me. If you know this marriage is a sham, then let me go.
“When I saw the text I had to wake up from the couch. I
confronted him and he went all crazy on me. He said I have no right to
pick up his phone. I told him I had no airtime on my phone and wanted
to make a call with his. He said I have no right to go through his
phone.
“I said to him, is this what you really do, you would bring
somebody to the house, for me to feed for dinner and this is it. You are
in a sexual relationship with this guy.”
Meanwhile, OAP Freeze and Benedicta who have been together for several years have a son together.