This is one
confusing Interview…They say there was no issue of consent and there
was no issue of assault,the more I read,the more confused I became but
most important thing is that Kemen and Tboss are now friends and they
ask you to also move on and spread love….
Life outside the BBNaija house?
TBoss:
I hoped that it will be big but since I got out, its way more than I
expected. The love, you know so much love, its just crazy but so far
its been fun.
Kemen
Its been same. Fun and love, mixed feelings and acceptability but all the same, the platform was worth it.
How has it been and how has the whole drama affected you and how have you been able to manage it individually?
TBoss
I have this silly habit of reading the comments people put up for my
pictures, but a lot of hates , its been really difficult dealing with
that because I used to cry at the beginning but at this point I don’t, I
don’t even see it anymore. It used to hurt me a lot you know because
people twisted the whole thing like in a very very bad nut, it felt like
no matter what I did or no matter what I tried to say, it was
misinterpreted the wrong way.
So that
really made me feel sad because its like no body cared to even find out
the truth, no body is interested in the positive, its all about the
negative, they fed up that negative news and that is what they ran away
with.
Kemen
Just like Tboss said, a lot of things were not analysed in the right way and it did cause a lot of damage to our personalities.
It gave her
some undeserved negativity. The way it was placed made it look like I
was the one who laid the allegation but the truth was that she didn’t go
out there to say this was what happened to me;
TBoss cuts in: because the truth is that I didn’t even know in
the first place, I didn’t even know about the incident what happened, I
didn’t have a clue about it. The whole day we were cool, we had
Patoraking in the house, we had a fun day preparing for the possible
eviction, I didn’t have a clue about what was going on, so just for me
to see the video, ofcourse I was hurt, I was angry, I was ashamed. I
just wanted to but that was it and the next thing you were…
Kemen continues: you know moving on from there, like I said, I
really wish that we had an opportunity to talk (I and Tboss) before
leaving the house, I really wished we had that opportunity to talk, I
really wish it was possible for us to be called into the diary room
together to analyse the video that was out there that led to my
disqualification. You know coming out from the house there was a lot of
things out there, you won’t know which one to talk for and which one to
talk against.
I heard
people say things like, well people that were seems to be in support of
me, said things like; why will she say she didn’t hear when you were
touching her? And I am like, there was no touch down there, then the
whole touch thing didn’t come in to play (Tboss cuts in; and a lot
of people say that you (TBoss) were not dead why would you say that you
did not feel someone was touching you?)
Kemen continues;
Some other people said things like, what about when she been dey give
you green light and I am like the whole issue of green light didn’t even
come in, we had a cordial relationship in the house, we were mutual
friends, you get, so that was how it is, I have/ I showed great respect
for Tboss when I was in the house and I wouldn’t change that for any
reason whatsoever but of course the decision for purpose of the people
that will get confuse at this point was based on the house rules that
says that Big brother is responsible for the safety of the housemates.
Do you guys think that you guys were setup at a point?
Kemen: it was a clear case of house rule that says everything
that happens in the house especially when it comes to some sort of
relationship aspect has to be consented to and of course in that issue
what happened, there was an issue of unconsented touch -you get, but my
disqualification was not because (Forgive my language) slipping my hands
into Tboss’s pants because it didn’t happen but of course there was a
case of touching her without her consent which Big brother said okay all
housemates should be safe, should be protected so because of that you
have violated the house rule. So but people twisted it, I have been
called several names, I have been called rapist, I have been called the
sexual molester so you know sorts she also has been seen as a pretender
and the whole thing was, it was too much of emmm…
TBoss cuts in; a lot of people blamed me for his
disqualification, (Kemen- yea) and I just got to find out that I
actually knew that he was going to get disqualified, I didn’t know all
of this. I found out the minute all housemates found out so that really
hurt me because I did consider him a friend in that house but the issue
of green light, No that never came into play. He always motivated me and
pushed me to push myself, to be more interactive with the housemates so
yea it was just a really silly incident.
So now you are talking, are you guys going to work together in the future?
Kemen: well for me, TBoss has always been one of those housemates
that I wanted to be friends with outside the house, I had a couple of
plans I thought I will be able to execute with her on board of course
with the other housemates so if she gives me the opportunity, I will
love to do some stuff with her- business related.
Tboss, your first interview you reframed from talking about the
issue, so what has changed now about the incident in the house that led
to his (Kemen) eviction?
TBoss:
I didnt speak about it because I wasnt ready. And I like to be prepared
in my head first of all because I realised since I came out of the house
no matter what I say or do or dont do it is misinterpreted the wrong
way.
I didnt want to be put under pressure to speak about it because I was
still very hurt, I was still very angry at him because I really felt I
was betrayed and what happened in the house is actually forgiveable but
there is this interview that I saw afterwards that I wasnt okay with
because it was borned out of context aswell but now I am in the good
place and I just know that, I have forgiven him already in my heart but I
didnt come out to say it bcos it is not everything you come out to say
but alot of people have been speaking to me about forgive, forgive but I
have already forgiven him but I was like you know I dont want to talk,
they kept putting pressure on me – you included (Azuka), and now I just
took hold of the opportunity that he was going to be at (mention
location), I was also going to be there, you know what, why dont we bury
the hatchet, whats the point, so now I am comfortable enough to speak
about it .
People/social media are also suggesting you guys might be dating so are you considering that?
Laughs….
Tboss and Kemen shaking both heads and laughing- No! No!
Kemen, how do you feel about this reconciliation knowing the fact that
you guys were good friends in the house and this led to alot of
misunderstanding and people saying whats not
Kemen
The truth is that I have always wanted to talk with her. I told myself
that whatever she decides at the end of the day I needed an opportunity
to talk to her, she needs to hear me out bcos that is the one thing we
lacked before we left the house.
But that was abit difficult to acchieve. I spoke to a couple of people
about the fact that I really needed us to talk, I mean whatever she
chooses or decided at the end of the day but if she chooses to hear me
out, she should let me know.
But I feel good not just bcos we have worked things out but bcos I can
now totally feel I have forgiven myself bcos I can, I now undestand her
pains and she has been able to say ok I believe you to this point, you
hurt me, she was able to let me know where I really hurt her and once
again (to Tboss), I sincerely apologise to all the whole issue I have
caused you, the dramas, everything and hopefully as we get along, if I
can, I will make it up to you if given the opportunity.
Now that both of you are friends, we are happy about this goodnews, what
will you do differently to move forward let people know that people in
life we have issues but there is a time to fall and a time to makeup?
Kemen:
Well I keep and the one answer I give is I dont think there is anything I
will do differently but I will just do things moderately because the
one lesson I have learnt is the fact that there is need for us to be
very conscious about the next person.
So I was going to ask you too bcos I remember the backlash you had on
social media, how were you able to stay positive? I mean I read some of
the comments, I was like I hope this guy wont go on something nasty. How
were u able to stay positive and still be able to go out to events and
act like as if nothing is happening?
Kemen
Without trying to sound too spiritual, i will say God gave me an unsual
strenght bcos I seat back now and I asks myself how was I able to cope.
There were times I broke down, there were days I will stay up the whole
night without sleeping, there were days where I will couldnt pick up
(the phone). I remember my dad called me, I didnt pickup my dad’s call, I
didnt pick up my mum’s call, becos I didnt know what, I knew they were
calling to maybe give me a word or two encouragement but I didnt know
how to face them bcos I felt I had disappointed the whole world but I
was surrounded by very positive friends and I mean the Nigerian society
is one that just believe in giving people an opportunity to prove that
they are better persons, so everything just worked out well gradually.
Finally, what do you guys have to say to your fans out there to the Tbossnation and Kemen Fitness Fans?
Tboss:
You know to err is human and to forgive is divine and this scenario,
this whole incident has taught me just how amazing I am really and its
difficult becos watching the video you see something and I felt a whole
lots of betrayal and disappointments from someone I considered a friend,
but I also realise that (OMG) life is too short, life is just too
short, you know but I dont want to keep dragging this unnecessary
baggage becos I am always going to bump into Kemen and I cant be walking
around like squeezing my face or like hating him. Like I can do the
ignoring thing like I can even just ignore you but I dont want to do
that bcos we have a history which wasnt unpleasant until you know so
whats the point, why am I dragging that? I have too many things to deal
with in my life, you know, why not forgive the guy. He (Kemen) has made a
lot of attempts to get to me, a lot of people of spoken to me, I dont
want to sound like noctuhead so I forgive, I didnt come out until this
opportunity presented itself and we are all jumped upon so we are good,
myself and kemen we are good. Bossnation please you guys dont attack
him, please dont attack me, I have gotten so much negative stuff from
people. Lets just move on and the funny thing is (Message to haters),
for all of you out there who are not happy about it (laughs/make
mockery), hey, out here, like seriously, get on board. Lets just be
happy. Spread love.
Kemen
She (Tboss) said everything. There is need to always be peaceful,
maintaining peaceful co-existence generally so I am happy. The message I
have out there is there is no issue that cant be resolved thru dialogue
and the social media guys, make una cool down small abeg (laughs).
Doing this does not make eh, accepting to talk does not make her a weaker person neither doesn it make me a weaker person.
Tboss cuts in – I think it makes us stronger, bcos we have risen
above the hates on what was and what wasnt, we have decided to rise
above it alland let love. That does not mean please to anyone who is
going to twist things around, this does not mean that I actually knew
what was happening or whatever. I found out at night on Sunday that
eviction night, so No I did not know about it in the first place.
Kemen continues, what she means is there was no issue of consent
(Tboss Nodded in support), there was no issue of green light, there was
no issue of assault.
In one voice (Kemem and Tboss), so lets just move on.
Interviewer:
Ok nice nice nice we are happy everything is sorted. Thank you guys for
finding time to come to the studio and we hope to see more of Tboss and
Kemen working together in future.
Tboss – Never say never
Tboss and Kemen echoed Thank you