When you are in a relationship there are some basic things you should never compromise on, Not because you dont Love that person enough but because those things are what makes you that unique person. Read more after the cut…
1. Self-worth
Don’t remain in a relationship with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself.
Do you find that the more time you spend with your partner, the worse
you feel? This is a sign that it’s time to reconsider the relationship.
You should make an effort to surround yourself with people who support
you and make you feel good about yourself.
Therapist Mark Tyrell said you shouldn’t
completely base your identity on how others see you, but you should be
aware of how the people in your inner circle make you feel. “Your
self-esteem shouldn’t be totally dependent on the person with whom you
happen to be in a relationship. But the fact is, relationships do have a
big impact on the way you feel. And that includes the way you feel
about yourself…How’s your self-esteem? How’s your relationship? The two
can be more intertwined than we realize,” said Tyrell on his website.
2. Personal beliefs
No matter how in love you are, backing
down when it comes to your personal beliefs should not be an option. If
you strongly feel a certain way about an issue that is near and dear to
your heart, you shouldn’t be made to feel that you have to adjust your
views just to keep someone close. Once you start compromising your
values and beliefs, you’re likely to start compromising on other things
as well.
Margret Paul, psychologist and co-author of Do I Have to Give up Me to Be Loved by You?
said some compromise is healthy, but it’s important not to compromise
to the point where you begin to lose yourself. “Most relationships
require us to bend to a certain extent, but how much can we bend without
a loss of self? There is an inherent paradox in these questions: A
truly loving relationship is a relationship where each person accepts
and even values the differences between them. If you have to excessively
bend your values to preserve the relationship, what are you preserving?
You are not preserving a loving relationship, since love does not
demand that you excessively bend your values,” Paul wrote in a piece for
The Huffington Post.
3. Family
If your partner tries to isolate you
from your family or turn you against them, this is something to be
concerned about. Possessiveness might make you feel special at first, but when it’s overdone
to the point that you’re being kept away from family, something is
wrong. Psychologist Theresa E. DiDonato said there should be balance
when it comes to how much time you and your partner spend together. “The
goal, of course, is to find a balance
in which both members of the couple are happy with the time they spend
together, maintain their outside friendships and family relationships,
make progress towards their professional goals, and give the
relationship a chance to flourish,” DiDonato said in a Psychology Today
story.
4. Close friendships
Everyone needs good friends in their
life. Quality friendships make life richer and can help you get through
the unexpected rough patches that come along. Resist the urge to spend
all of your time with your partner at the expense of your friendships.
Remember that if you break up, your friends will be the ones to help you
get through it. Don’t push them away so you can focus on your love
life. Be leery of any partner who encourages you to distance yourself
from your friends (unless they are toxic, then that’s another story).
If you have a group of trustworthy
people in your life, do your best to keep them close. DiDonato said
friends can be helpful when it comes to making decisions about your
relationship. “Friends are not only support systems, their opinions of your relationship predict your relationship success (Sprecher, 2011)
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