According to a new study, a large orgasm gap still exists between men
and women as men at 66% are still climaxing more often than women at
43%.
The new study conducted by sex toy company Lelo and released on
National Orgasm Day (July 5) has revealed that almost one in 20 women
have never orgasmed with a sexual partner.
The result of the survey that involved 4,000 heterosexual female and
male participants from across the UK also revealed that many male
partners are unaware that women are not climaxing with the majority of
participants in relationships saying their partner orgasms 60% of the
time.
According to the study, this could partially be due to some women not
being physically able to climate during sex, rather than lack of trying
by their partner.
Additional research by Lelo revealed three in 10 people fake their
orgasms on a regular basis, with women more likely to do so, according
to the study. And only a third of those surveyed have spoken to their
partner about their orgasms, or rather lack of orgasms – with men (73%)
more likely to raise the issue, compared to women (56%).
‘The orgasm gap refers to the stats that show that in heterosexual
sexual experiences men orgasm more than women,’ explains Kate Moyle, sex
and relationships expert at Lelo.
‘We also see that this gap doesn’t exist when women are having sexual
experiences with women, which suggests that the gap is gendered.’
According to Kate, factors that increase the orgasm gap include lack
of education, cultural differences and the fact that many people focus
on intercourse to reach climax meanwhile truth is lots of women require
clitoral stimulation to climax.
Explaining why the clitoris is ‘so ignored’ Kate says;
‘This is reinforced by what we see represented in many forms of sex
online and in the media, where women appear to be orgasming from
penetrative sex with little or no arousal,’ she says.
‘Commonly we also split up foreplay and sex, which puts the focus on
“sex” as the main event, when if we reframe and think of it all as sex
where the goal is pleasure than the clitoris, which is the main source
of female pleasure with 8000 nerve endings would get more attention.
‘It’s not all about taking the focus off penetration but ensuring
that people are aware then when women are aroused, the clitoris becomes
erect like the penis, and this means the internal structure can be
stimulated and can create pleasurable sensations through intercourses,
but arousal and being turned on is the key.’
‘The side effect of this lack of sex education is few of us feel
confident with sexual communication, and being open about what feels
good for us, and this is one of the key routes to creating change.’
